Healthy Relationships

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?

  1. Mutual Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands -- and would never challenge -- the other person's boundaries.
    • There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't Trust each other.
  2. Honesty goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest.
    • In a healthy relationship, Support should not just be in the bad times but to celebrate as well.
  3. Fairness & Equality - A healthy relationship is give-and-take.
    • In a healthy relationship, always be yourself! Everyone needs to compromise while still maintaining Separate Identities.
  4. Good Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
    • Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly

 

Dating Violence

What is dating violence?

Dating violence is ABUSE. Someone who does something to you or acts in a way that makes you feel afraid or bad about yourself does not love you.

Warning signs

Are you or do you know someone that is going out with a person who...

  • is jealous, possessive and checks up on you all the time?
  • won't accept a break up?
  • tries to control you and makes all the decisions?
  • screams, yells and scares you?
  • puts you down in front of your friends and tells you that you are stupid or ugly?
  • grabs, hits, pushes, or shoves you?
  • brags about mistreating others and loses their temper easily?
  • pressures you or tries to force you into having sex?
  • has a history of bad relationships and blames the other person?
  • abuses alcohol or drugs and pressures you to take them as well?
  • makes your friends and family afraid for your safety?

If you can answer YES to any of these questions, this is Dating Violence.

What to do if you want the abuse to stop

  • Talk to someone that you trust: Friend, Family member, Teacher, School Counsellor, Clergy
  • Call the police (911) Community Services
  • Call the Kids Help Phone toll free at 1-800-668-6868

You are NOT alone. Someone will listen and will help you.

How to be a friend

  • Don't ignore the signs and think that it will go away, talk to them about it.
  • Listen, if a friend wants to talk to you support them and tell them what you think but don't judge.
  • Point out your friend's qualities and good points .
  • Encourage your friend to seek help from a trusted adult.
  • Call the police or tell an adult if you witness your friend being hurt.

Remember - You are not responsible for stopping the abuse or protecting your friend, but you can be there to listen and support them.